I have never used that kind of circuit before.... that said, you sound like the bootstrap is not working. I suspect that it is because the charge pump cannot work on smooth DC. By discharging the cap, the pulsed DC input gets it going, and once running the pulses come from the loaded open and close interaction. (D S open closed) or, CBST discharging into the gate via VB
With the battery connected, at start there is no pulsing voltage to get the vs vg voltage needed. VB must come from Vin being 12v ( or whatever uvlockout is) above b+
Dz could be 14v
What is the VB to VS differential when you cant get it to fire. Is it above lockout?
To test this, use an isolated supply to VB and VS on the high side driver, and see if that runs it. If so, your not getting pulses to the charge pump on at start, only stable DC< 25v or so.
Can't have a charge pump without voltage fluctuation.
With the charge pump not working, the pm will only keep charging the filter cap up.... until if vb is 12v or so above vs, it should get going.
I have never bothered with driver IC in high side only use, but you should be able to find where the voltage is not, and work from there.
If supplying isolated voltage from VB to VS, does not get the driver going... perhaps the driver chip is toast.
If you still can't get it going, try a toroid driver, just to get it a feel for a working circuit, and then work backwards to your exotic chip system.
Another alternative is to use ( when all else fails) some of the pm ac to drive a small transformer to make a truly isolated supply, and drive the fet directly with this.... silly but very stable.
..............oztules
Edit: and lets assume you have Dstart around the right way